Well, good morning. How are all you good girls doing out there? Can you believe that we only have one more week left in our study of Grace for the Good Girl? Do you feel like this book has helped you in any way? I know it has been a freeing experience for me. I couldn't agree any more with the title of Part 3, "The freedom of being found." How about you?
In Chapter 15, Emily discussed how we are safe, even when it hurts. She says that when things break, we try to repair, replace, or ignore those things. She used an example of a broken relationships and what happened once it ended. Emily said that she never fully got closure from that relationship and it haunted her without her even realizing it into her married life. She finally came to grips with the process of healing. She says, "Healing is messy and fluid and often unpredictable. I can't manufacture my own healing. It usually takes longer than I think, runs deeper than I wished, and involved more areas of my life than I ever imagined. But once I come through it on the other side, healing not only offers the closure I thought I wanted, it comes with a wholeness, wellness, and restoration that closure lacks."
There is a difference between closure and healing. In the midst of your broken places, are you searching for a mask, for closure, for control? Or are you desperate for a healer?
Chapter 16 was a major revelation to me. It is about being safe in failure. What comes to your mind when you hear the word "failure?" Emily says that good girls tend to think of failure as not measuring up, or of doing or being wrong. She hit the nail on the head for me. Lately, I have struggled with this feeling of not measuring up. It has gripped me so hard that I have struggled to even enjoy my day. I have been sullen and a bit angry about certain circumstances. I feel entitled yet I know that work still needs to be taken place. It's been a difficult road of doubt and insecurity. Emily explains it this way: "Something that keeps us from falling to the ground like a seed is the fact that there are so many things we believe we are entitled to. We hold a fistful of hopes and dreams and desires and wants." She challenges us in our journaling time to write down all the rights you may be holding on to. She says that when we have some alone time, speak these rights out loud and release them to Jesus. At the end of this chapter, she explains that if anybody had rights, it was Jesus. Instead, he chose the life of a dependent servant, trusting his Father for everything. He released all rights in order to come to earth.
Before we leave today, I wanted us to settle in on our Truth to Remember from Phil. 2:5-7, "Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men."
We will meet back here next week to finish up our series with Chapter 17 & 18. Looking forward to our time together already.
Till next time, let your light shine!
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*Grace for the Good Girl. Freeman, Emily P.