She's a daddy's girl, our Maralee. God selected some of Raleigh's finest characteristics and delicately passed these traits down to our youngest twin. She is silly, oh so giggly and smiley. She is fearless in her imaginative play, rescuing animals with ropes fashioned from her dad's robe while she jumps from the cliff's edge of the sofa to hide underneath the mountain of pillows. She is compassionate, compliant, and cute as can be with her big blue eyes, button nose, and hair that lays just right. She and her dad have a bond that was given to them, special and pure. As her mother and his wife, I cherish their tie in my heart.
What I love about my daddy's girl is the fact that she can play with him all day long but that doesn't mean she has no need for me. All she wants is her mama when she's sick and I'm queen of the makeup around our wooden castle. Her dad might have her smitten, but the way she hugs my leg tight when we say goodbye let's me know that I'm special to her too.
I think it is easy to get jealous of the connection that girls have with their dads but instead of feeling jealous, I'm so very thankful that our girls know their dad is a father who they can link arms with. He makes time for them and cares for them just as much as I do, but in different ways. My girls' dad is just as much of a parent to them as their mom - he's no babysitter and not just a provider. He's the maker of smiley face lunches, the swing dancer, and the laundry man. He's dad and it's obvious to me why our girls love him so fully.
Therefore, as a proud mother of an adorable daddy's girl, I watch them play and my heart blushes pink instead of green with envy. This girl, who would wear a princess costume and carry a sword (which is actually a drum stick) every day if we allowed, captivates me. Without a challenge, she enables me to love bigger, laugh louder, and live a little less seriously.
I'm sure one out of three daughters are a daddy's girl (that statistic is all mine, no research behind it but it makes sense, right?) so one out of three mama's might have a harder time finding a connection to their daughters who are infatuated by dad.
Here are 5 ways you can love your daddy's girl:
1. Let them play: don't try to interject or stop it, let them play. If you have other children, focus on that child while your daddy's girl is with him. If you don't have other children, step outside and read, go on a walk, or take a bubble bath. When she is done playing with him, she will be happy and probably come running into your arms with a big smile on her face instead of tears for why you made them stop.
2. Make up your own secrets: if they include you in their secrets, by all means join in the conversation. But, if they don't, instead of feeling left-out, make your own. I know as I got older, there were certain "girl" things I just didn't have the nerve to speak of around my father. But, my mom...let's just say our conversations were peppered with helpful advice.
3. Embrace being a girl with your girl: she might be a total tomboy but some part of every girl loves to wear a dress. Yes, daddy walks her down the aisle but mama can be the one who adorns the veil on her girl.
4. Figure out how God designed her: as moms, I think we have a natural tendency to control our children's circumstances. We guide them down the path that we've always imagined our little girls would travel on. But, some daddy's girls just want to throw a football instead of wear a tu-tu. Or, the other way around. What I'm trying to say is this: let her be her. Support her and trust that God has an incredible plan for her life.
5. Guard her heart: the first heart break to your daddy's girl is just as heartbreaking to you. Let her cry, let her text you, let her hide in her closet for a little while if she needs to. Remind her of all the kind words her father has spoken over her all these years and that the boy she will marry one day will believe in these things about her too. Dads are the primary example to girls on how to be treated (or not to be treated in some cases) by boys. As her mother, mentor her on how to discern if a boy is a keeper or needs to just keep swimming.
Mothers play just as significant of a role in raising a daddy's girl as the fathers. It's just a different role. So, instead of feeling like the last one picked, remind yourself that God picked you to be the mother to your daddy's girl.
Question: How do you love your daddy's girl?
Till next time, let your light shine!
ps: I wrote a post a few weeks back about our other twin, Adeline. You can read what my toddler-girl is teaching me about motherhood here.
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