Today I'm sharing a review of one of my new favorite motherhood books, Mothering From Scratch by Melinda Means & Kathy Helgemo. I'm also delighted to announce that these ladies have asked me to join them over at Moms Together, an online community that encourages, empowers, and equips moms. My first post will be the first week of March!
Our twins, they mirror one another in looks. Both have big blue eyes, long blonde hair that curls as they run and play. Their brother with eyes that shine bright just like the girls, is almost one and learning that the world is full of adventure to discover. While our children favor one another in looks, their view of the world is unique to each of their personalities.
Adeline is our oldest and she will tell you in a heartbeat that she was born two minutes before her sister. This confuses Maralee and on our walk to pick yellow wildflowers she tearfully says, "Mommy, I don't like being called the little sister." This girl, who I affectionately call snuggle buddy needs hugs, attention, and affirmation while her sister needs structure, artistic freedom, and spiritual discipline. Then there is Ridley, who never wants to be alone and craves mommy's embrace for security. These little people, they all have their own needs and have to be loved in their own unique ways. There is no way I can mother these kids from a cookie cutter approach. I'm learning how to love each of them individually.
A book that I've been reading recently to help me as a mom is Mothering From Scratch, written by my friends Melinda Means & Kathy Helgemo. Mothering From Scratch shows moms how to develop the personalized mothering style that will enable them to become the best mom they can be. By customizing their parenting style, moms can enhance - and, if necessary, restore - the joy of mothering.
Full of solid biblical truth, this book encourages moms to explore their personalities and examine their strengths and weaknesses in order to find out what methods work best for them. Means and Helgemo also urge moms to tap into the resources surrounding them and get mentoring and support from other moms. With this practical guide, moms can push past the fear of doing it "wrong" and allow room for grace in their parenting.
In their book, Melinda and Kathy say that having children requires a change in mind-set from me to we. They also say that God uniquely chose me to be a mom to my children and he chose you to be the mom of your children. What works for you might not work for me. And that's okay! When we embrace who God made us, we find a great level of joy and security and a deeper relationship with our Creator.
With Valentine's Day being this weekend, I know you are going to give your children gifts of love and they are going to give you precious hugs and kisses in return. But might I recommend you picking up this book for yourself to help you on this journey of motherhood? It's been so helpful for me to read on the hard days as a mom and it also gives me confidence that I'm not a bad mom or doing everything wrong. Motherhood is full of mistakes and whenever I make a poor judgment, I say I'm sorry and try again. There are no perfect moms or perfect kids but God's ways are perfect when he designed us to be the moms of our children.
I'm giving away one copy of Mothering From Scratch for Valentine's Day. If you'd like a chance to win, just enter in the rafflecopter giveaway below. I'll draw the winner on Valentine's Day and will announce the winner on Monday. I wish I could give a book to everyone but I can't! If you don't win, I'd encourage you to pick up a copy of Mothering From Scratch. Happy Valentine's Day mama's! a Rafflecopter giveaway