"Mommy, when are we going to have Adi-Mommy day?" My oldest twin, Adeline, had been asking for a special day with me for months now. It's a tradition we started when our twins were three - my husband would take one twin for one-on-one time and I'd take the other. These special days help us spend quality time with our girls and also allows them the chance to have our undivided attention; something that is rare in a house with three littles, two full-time jobs, and busy evenings filled with extracurricular activities.
Even though I was about to release my first devotional and was still weak from being sick just a few days before, I told my five year old we could have Adi-Mommy day after church last Sunday. That morning, she picked out a special dress and had me put her hair in a bun with a ribbon (like Anna's hair for Coronation Day in Frozen, just in case you were wondering) and was so excited she could hardly wait for church to be over. Her sister felt the same way.
As I buckled her up in the car, I had a few ideas of what we could do for the day. I was thinking Mexican food, then shopping, and finally a mani-pedi. But, this was Adeline's day so when she said she wanted ice cream for lunch, I obliged. Funny thing was that when we pulled up to the ice cream shop, her sister had asked for the same thing! We sat at separate tables but my husband and I shared a wink, knowing that this was one of the crazy things twins just naturally do. As different as they can be, they still think so much alike.
After ice cream, my husband took her sister to a jump house and Adeline declared that it was time to get our nails done. We both got pedicures and she also had polish (with sparkles) on her fingers. While soaking our feet, she shared with me the little things that make her who she is and asked me questions about who I was. Once we were done, we headed to Target to buy her a special toy and some new shoes. She even "let" me do some grocery shopping while she was there and didn't complain once. Target runs are usually filled with lots of compromising and negotiating and popcorn flying everywhere between all three kids but this time it was actually fun! When we were done, she didn't want to leave and neither did I. So, we cranked up the car, listened to Katy Perry's Roar for the tenth time that day and drove around before heading home. It truly was a special day and we came home with our quality time love tanks filled to the brim.
Carving out special one-on-one days with our kids is not only fun but it is necessary. Just like dates are necessary between a husband and wife, quality time with our kids are just as important. Because these special days are rare, we can really pour extra effort and attention into our kids and in return, they are rewarded for their good behavior. Even if you are a stay-at-home mom who spends all day with her kids, it is still a good idea to get out of the house and do something special.