There is only one thing that I know to be true - prayer matters.
For the past week, we have felt surrounded by your prayers. I’m not kidding. From the moment we left to the moment we arrived to the moment Raleigh James was born and to the moment that he was discharged from the hospital - we’ve been prayed over. We’ve asked and you’ve stopped what you’ve been doing to pray for us. I used to be one of those people that felt guilty for asking others to pray for them. I always felt like my needs were so minor compared to the big and scary needs of others. But this week has shown me that God wants us to ask others to pray for us because they can intercede for us in our moments of weariness and uncertainty. God has gone before us, and each step of this adoption journey has been bathed in prayer, helping us to have peace in the midst of scary and unknown circumstances. Our journey to bring Raleigh James home this week has been very unpredictable and has not gone according to our “plan” but God has continued to show us His promises and your prayers have helped us get through moments we could never have anticipated. So thank you. Thank you so, so, much for helping us bring home our son. We hope we can be there for you when you need prayers the most too.
Our son, Raleigh James Micah Price, was born on June 10, 2019 at 8:39 a.m. weighing seven pounds and 18.5 inches long.
Each part of his name means something very special to us. Before we ever had boys, we’ve had our two boy names picked out (John Ridley and Raleigh James). When we were pregnant with Ridley and deciding on a name, Raleigh allowed me to go ahead and use the name Ridley with our first boy (which is so fitting for him because he looks just like my side of the family!). When I asked him why, his simple response was “If we ever adopt, I want that child to have my name so he always knows that he’s my son.”
James is not only a family name for both Raleigh and myself but it is also the book of the Bible that shares about how we can care for widows and orphans. James 1:22 has stuck out to us through this adoption process because it says “Let us be doers of the word and not just hearers.” I also think it’s pretty cool that our small group has been studying this book all semester, which again shows me how God prepares us for what’s next in life.
Micah is a name that his birth parents chose for him which means “Who is like God?” We love it. One of mine and Raleigh’s favorite Bible verses has always been Micah 6:8 and now we can pray this over our son: “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”
He is precious and our hearts are bursting with love for him. It’s crazy how much we already adore him. To be honest, I didn’t know what it was going to feel like once I saw him. Would I connect with him, bond with him, love him as my own? For the past several days, I’ve had to love him from a distance. It’s been difficult but I also think it made my heart want him more. When I finally had the chance to hold him privately, I just broke down in tears. He just felt right being in my arms. After all these months of risk-taking and living on a prayer that it would all work out according to God’s plan, he felt like the sweetest reward. He has a head full of hair and makes the sweetest sounds as he sleeps. Raleigh and I just stare at him all day long. We can’t get enough of him.
I am so happy that Raleigh has received this gift right before Father’s Day. My secret prayer has been for him to have his son by Father’s Day and I truly believe that his birth fell at just the right time for our family. Since we officially decided to adopt, Raleigh has been navigating us through this journey. He’s done research, paperwork, budgets, and so much more to get us to this place. But above the physical acts, he has been loving this child unconditionally. He’s been having the tough conversations. After Raleigh James was born, Raleigh stood outside that nursery window with tears in his eyes. He has so much love for this child and I am so grateful that I get to witness it.
This child is loved not only by us but also by his birth parents, who are both African American. He will always be their son, and he will always be our son. There is something incredibly beautiful and also incredibly painful about that statement.
Our time together is a lesson of what it truly means to love.
Love is bigger than our own needs. Love is patience and is about putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. Love is making hard choices, being brave, and admitting that we are not in control. Love is sacrificial and kind and generous.
Love is what we feel when we draw Raleigh James near to us. Love is found through mighty prayer texts from friends in the middle of the night. Love shows up with gifts in our bank account from people we haven’t seen in years. Love casts out fear, even when fear seems big and scary. Love is what makes a family.
Join us in welcoming Raleigh James Micah Price into this world! Praise be to God, from whom all blessings flow!!!
p.s. - We know that God’s promises are bigger than our plans and that this phrase applies to so much more than our adoption. If you’d like a t-shirt to remember God’s promises over your own plans, feel free to Paypal your donation to firstname.lastname@example.org or Venmo @chris10price. Your donation will help us to bring this little guy home!